Hello everyone! I need some advice; I'm pregnant with my second child....

1 год назад Zhazira 2г9м 7м2н Кокшетау

Hello everyone! I need some advice; I'm pregnant with my second child. When my husband found out, he told me to have an abortion, but I refused. He has come to terms with it. But now, some time later, I think it might be better to have the abortion after all. I feel like I won't be able to cope after the baby is born. My parents helped me with the first child, back then we lived in the same city. I thought I was going to lose my mind. This time, I will have to manage on my own. My husband won't help me; he leaves for work in the morning and comes back when we are about to go to sleep. I really don't want to commit a sin. To those who would say, "What were you thinking, you should have used protection," I was on the pill.

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Supermoms

, but they did not help. I just don't know what to do. Maybe someone has been in a similar situation and can share their experience? I would be grateful for any advice.

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Надя

4г4м 2г8м

"Well, go ahead and give birth, it's nothing scary. It will be tough, but you won't die. Why kill the child?"

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Дарья

1г6м

If you are sure that it will be difficult for you, especially since your husband, as I understand, does not want another child, then having an abortion is the best option. And do you want a second child yourself, or do you just not want to have an abortion? It's also important to understand.

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Екатерина

4г2м

If that's how it turned out, go ahead and have the baby. You'll regret it later if you don't. Maybe by the time you give birth, you can send your daughter to kindergarten, and it will be a bit easier.

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Mishka

3г9м 2г1м

I have children close in age) it's not easy, it's hard, I'm alone with no relatives nearby, but I never even thought about it! Not everyone is given such a thing, cherish and value it! It's a miracle.

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Анастасия

8г0м 2г7м

Children are truly a divine providence. Think about the fact that it's not for nothing; you took precautions, yet the child was born against all odds. You cannot just get rid of what has been given from above. It is a great sin, and a believer will not be able to live their life in peace afterwards.

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Гуля

4г3м 1г2м

Have children, all the mothers have kids close in age, it's okay, they manage) I also thought about abortion because my son still doesn't talk and is very, very hyperactive, you have to constantly watch him. It's okay, I kept the baby because I might not have been able to get pregnant later, since we planned for a long time for both the first and the second child.

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Lea

2г6м 1г2м

God, why kill the little one? You are a family, why doesn't the husband help you? It's his child too ??? Better to give birth so you don't regret it later.

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Aidana

3г4м 1г8м 1г8м

I gave birth to twins a year after my first childbirth and nobody helped me. Yes, it was difficult, I almost went crazy. It was very tough mentally.

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Aidana

3г4м 1г8м 1г8м

Aidana , "I haven't given birth, but I got pregnant, that is ?"

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Татьяна

2г1м

"Have children, you'll regret it later. I also don't want to yet, but if it happens, I will have them. I'm almost alone too, but I've gotten used to it."

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Marsi

Hello, I actually separated from my husband when I was 4 weeks pregnant. Yes, it's hard, yes, I'm alone in the city, my family is far away, but you know - this is the best gift from God. Despite all the difficulties, I have no regrets. Please keep the baby. ?

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Anastasiya

2г11м

Leave the baby, you know how they say if a child is born, it means God wills it and He will always help, and everything will be fine for both you and the child. Just trust.

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Kaleriya_Mayer

14г3м 5г11м 4г6м

It will always be difficult, whether with one or with two. I have a 1.5-year difference between my boys - yes, it's tough, but despite all the tiredness and lack of sleep, it's a joy. Currently, one or the other is going through a crisis, but all these are temporary difficulties. The children enjoy being together; they can play and also fight with each other. If you know how to plan your time and manage it wisely, that's great. I have three kids myself, and each age has its nuances. I go to our country house where there's a huge garden and a house, and I live there half the year alone with them. I've now started working again and mostly manage on my own - my husband works. I write a daily plan, and I think through food purchases for half a week (I make a menu) to avoid wasting time. Burnouts happen, but everything is relative. Don't do something you'll regret later, because it will be an irreversible mistake and a miscalculation in action. I'm confident you're a strong girl and you'll manage. I wish you patience and wise, well-considered decisions.

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Дарья

6г3м 3г9м 42

This should be a well-thought-out choice. So that later neither you regret it, nor the child suffers. It's not like getting a kitten. Weigh all the pros and cons. It's up to you to decide, not someone else. A forum here is not an advisor :) Good luck.

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Sаbirkin ?

4г5м 2г2м

My girls have a 2-year age difference, of course it was tough at first but then I got used to it) The older one has become more independent and even helps out a bit) But abortion is a terrifying topic for me personally.

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Айкоша

3г6м 1г6м

I had a second child so that my daughter wouldn't be alone. So that in the future she could rely on her little brother. Blood relatives are blood relatives. Yes, it's hard, my husband only comes home to sleep at night, and I work online because we don't have enough money. I thank the Almighty for giving me another living and healthy baby.

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Zhazira

2г9м 7м2н

Айкоша , "Thank you for the information, who do you work with online?"

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Айкоша

3г6м 1г6м

Zhazira , The English translation of "Бухгалтер" is "Accountant."

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